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It’s All About the Little Things Part 1 – Why is my Heart so Heavy?

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Hello, my precious friends, how are you doing? I feel heavy hearted today. I think I have encountered too many little things without taking the time to process them with the Lord. It occurred to me that I might not be the only one and maybe we can encourage each other to work through our little things before they grow any more burdensome.

When something big happens, most of us know we need to stop and pray and proceed with care. When it is a little thing, it doesn’t seem as necessary. But too many little things can end up weighing more than a big thing and we end up where I am today – with a heavy heart.

What are these little things?

What kind of little things are we talking about? Any small grievance or irritation can hang around if we don’t deal with it. Think about a grain of sand, or a kernel of rice. They are so small that carrying them takes no effort. But when they pile up they are heavy!

Sandbags in a pile: Its the little things, part 1 - why does my heart feel so heavy?
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Grains of rice or sand are small and insignificant. But they are heavy when they pile up!

I have a few examples from a beach trip my husband and I recently enjoyed. It was wonderful, except for a handful of little things. They would hardly be noticeable, except that they were added to an already heavy pile I had growing in my heart.

Four little things from our beach weekend

1. Strange message

There were many digital message boards along the freeway on our route to the beach. Each one had the same message. It read “Always watch for pedestrians!” We were on the freeway! If there were pedestrians at risk, shouldn’t the boards have read “Don’t walk on the freeway!”? I have seen messages like this near international borders, and they make sense in that context. But we were hundreds of miles from any border. It may have been the littlest thing but after the 25th board with the same message, I was tired of it.

2. Withheld breakfast

The hotel where we reserved our room advertised free breakfast. It was reiterated in written detail on the flap of the keycard folder, which we were handed when we checked in. But when we got up in the morning and went to the dining room, there was nothing. Not even coffee. (Is a lack of coffee a little thing? You decide!) The service was likely halted due to Covid, but the change was not communicated. I was disappointed.

3. Sneaky surcharge

We had a delicious meal in an established restaurant. When our bill arrived, a note at the bottom of it explained that a 4% surcharge had been added to cover costs necessary to run the restaurant. 4% is a small thing, but we felt it could have, and should have, been mentioned before we incurred the cost. It seemed sneaky.

4. Spitted boba

We took a walk through a quaint little seaside town. A car filled with teenaged boys drove by and one of them spit a mouth full of boba pearls at us. My husband, in true gentleman fashion, was on the side of the walk closest to traffic and the boba hit him, sticking to his shirt.

We could hear the boys’ raucous laughter as the car sped away. It was a little thing only because my husband kept his composure. He could have picked up a rock and hurled it through the back windshield of the vehicle. I adored him for his self-control.

These little things are just a few examples of many from a couple of (otherwise glorious) days. It is easy to see how the little things can amass quickly when we ignore them for weeks on end. But that is exactly what we do. Why?

Why do we fail to handle the little things?

Personally, I ignore little things for many reasons. I didn’t process my irritation in relation to the four examples I shared above because they felt petty. I was enjoying a weekend get-away and there were so many wonderful moments on which to focus instead.

Sometimes things are so little that we barely notice them. Or we feel them but don’t have time to deal with them. Maybe we think that admitting heaviness of heart over little things makes us seem week, so we choose to ignore them.

Whatever the reason, they do pile up. Suddenly, we have one little thing too many and the weight is heavy on our hearts and minds. Have you been there? Are you there today? I feel you! Friend, we’re in this together!

And more than that, God is in this with us. He cares about our little things. He knows about all of them.

Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered.

Luke 2:7

Please join me here on the Back Porch on Wednesday and Friday this week for more conversation. I want to talk about how to recognize the symptoms little things can cause and give you some ideas for getting rid of them for good! In the meantime, is your heart heavy? Tell me about some little things you’ve encountered recently.

21 replies on “It’s All About the Little Things Part 1 – Why is my Heart so Heavy?”

Anything we press down will leave us feeling de-pressed. (A wonderful friend taught me this.) So, no matter whether they are small or large things the effect is still the same. Thanks for sharing. Glad your getaway was good in spite of those irritations!

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No COFFEE!? I thought you were going to talk about little things! 😂
And yes, I identify with you on little things constantly creeping into my mind. Even when praying before every drive whenever I get in our auto, I find myself slipping into old patterns of hating people who drive rudely or insanely. And the “boba pearls boys” would have probably received a rock in their rear windshield from me in hopes that they would stop for a fight. I know, I need more grace; please pray for me, as I pray for you.
On an aside, I always walk on the street side with my bride; at first she was annoyed with me for always changing sides, but now she is used to it and ‘tolerates’ my neuroses because she knows I do it because I love her. 😉
yours and His,

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Haha! I hear you on the coffee. That felt like a bigger blow than no breakfast. 🙂
Tell your sweetheart about our Boba experience. It does seem like a bit of an outdated practice to have a guy walk on the outside, now that we don’t have horses and buggies wheeling through muddy dirt roads. But there is still a value in it, as my story colorfully illustrates. Thank you for your comment. It often is this little things which sneak in and trip us up!

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Here’s a little thing that has bothered me for a week. We had a rental car because our car was damaged in a hail storm and was in the shop for a month. A few days before we got our car back, my husband met someone at Starbucks for work. When he parked the car a woman in a beat up Lexus parked next to him and begged for money. He said no. After he got out of the car she opened her car door and repeatedly smashed it into the side of our rental car.

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That is nice that the rental company didn’t care. That does help keep the size of the thing small ;). I like that picture. We really can help keep things small by the way we react, or don’t. Thanks for giving that example! 😀

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My daughter and her fiance are in the same boat. They are getting married on Dec. 2, so Dec. 1 is too crazy of a time to try to move. They are hoping for a Nov. 1 move-in date (for him, she will move in after the wedding) too… and will breathe so much easier once they have the keys in hand. Waiting is difficult – it is one of those little things for sure… and sometimes larger!

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