Who is in Charge of My Future? Am I Making Plans or are Plans Making Me?

The other day my granddaughter said to me, “Mima, did you know I have a boyfriend at school?” I blinked the astonishment out of my eyes and cocked my head with interested confusion. She’s five. I hadn’t planned this conversation until well into the future.

Her words flooded my mind with questions. The one that screamed its way to the front was “How do you know about boyfriends?” but I decided not to verbalize it just yet.

Instead, I went with “No, I didn’t know that. What’s his name?”

“I don’t know”, she responded.

“You have a boyfriend, and you don’t know his name?” I was beginning to relax.

“No, I don’t actually have him yet”, she said. “That is just what I plan to do.”

“Oh, do you have anyone in particular in mind?” I wondered.

“Not yet. But I do know a lot of boys.”

I was relieved and a bit distraught, but more than anything, I was amused. This precious child was making plans for something she knows very little about and talking as if she had already accomplished it.

“Silly girl!” I thought. But then I quickly realized, “Oh dear, I’ll bet she gets that compulsiveness from me.”

I think that way. I decide on something for my future and it’s pretty much a done deal in my head. And when I tell God my plans, His face probably looks a lot like mine did; astonished eyes, head cocked in playful dispute.

“If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans.”

Woody Allen

“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”

Proverbs 19:21

I really do like to have settled plans and a direction to be heading. I do not enjoy that feeling when things are ‘up in the air’. But it is one thing to make plans, and quite another to allow the plans to make me. Sometimes I get in a hurry for the future and rush out in front of the Lord. I make decisions and begin acting upon them with tunnel vision as if they were in charge.

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I’m working on it. God is working in me. He spoke to me about it a few years back and I wrote this little rhyme in response. It helps to read it every now and then to remind myself to ‘stay in my lane’ so to speak.

Ask Instead of Tell

I wake up in the morning, the "list" commands my day.
I quickly show it to the Lord and ask He bless my way.
He wraps His arms around me and brings me to my knees,
And lovingly requests I "let go of my plans, please".
He says "Thank you for inviting Me to join with you today,
But things will go much smoother, if we live this day My way."
Its important to remember, with my schedule I'd do well,
To take it all before the Lord and ask instead of tell!

I do believe it is ok with God – I’d even go so far as to say it is wise before God – to have direction for my future. But the key is to hold it loosely. I can make plans as long as my plans don’t make me. They are not in charge. I don’t want to be so invested that I can’t be flexible when God’s plans require a different direction than the one in which I was heading.

“Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.”

Corrie Ten Boom

“But the plans of the Lord stand firm for ever, the purposes of his heart through all generations.”

Psalm 33:11
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Right now, I have 1-year, 5-year, and ‘down the line’ plans for which I am consistently laying ground work. But honestly, I don’t know if I’ll live that long or whether God has different priorities for me. If the past is any indication, He’s chuckling at what I envision, knowing how different it is from His perfect vision.

And that’s pretty exciting when I stop and think about it. The Christian life is definitely an adventure. I need to relax a bit and enjoy it more.

“Now listen, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.’ Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, ‘If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.’ 

James 4:13-15

 “…in this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.”

Benjamin Franklin

So far, Benjamin Franklin has been correct, but I’d narrow my declaration a bit further. The only thing I can say about my future with absolute certainty is that I’m going to see Jesus face to face. That is the joy of my salvation. I’m thankful that the one thing I know for sure is such a glorious thing.

“For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.”

1 Corinthians 13:12

I want to live in such a way as to influence my granddaughter to say, “Mima, did you know I’m planning to have a boyfriend at school?”

To which I can reply, “I hope this is at least a 10-year plan! Let’s pray about it.” I’m sure boys will come and go from her life, but I consistently pray that Jesus will always have her heart.

I would love to help her make plans, but I don’t want to see plans make her – unless they are God’s plans. If He is in charge of her life, that is the best I can ask for. His plans give her the future she was created to live!

“For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Jeremiah 29:11

“Oh Lord, please guide me to be the example you want me to be. I desire that my plans for the future always bend to yours, and for you to always have charge over me. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen.”

24 replies on “Who is in Charge of My Future? Am I Making Plans or are Plans Making Me?”

Renee, I could have sworn I replied to your sweet comment. I didn’t ignore you on purpose! I probably forgot to hit the send button. Thank you for your input. I love how you point out that we cannot do better than God. His plans are already the best! It is so silly to try to do something else and think we are improving on anything. Thanks again!

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I can totally relate and understand!😆 I couldn’t tell you the many times I’ve typed a reply and either forgot to hit the send button or get distracted by something else. And if it’s a text message, I will find the message later in the text box, just sitting in limbo. 😂 I’m terrible! 🤦‍♀️
I totally agree, God’s way is best! 💜

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Very timely for me! I am absolutely a planner. And you’re so right that plans are in line with God as long as they aren’t our master. We have a couple of paths we feel God is leading us on, and I can easily already be there setting things up as if it’s done. I believe God does want us to see and live in faith in such a way that we proclaim what he has promised even when it doesn’t make sense or is in our future. But, even if God directs us, if those kingdom plans make me focus on them instead of Jesus, they are mastering me. All day, after taking a step in faith, I’ve had to keep pulling my focus back to Jesus and not on the outcome of the plan. God also reminded me that the enemy doesn’t care what he uses – good or bad – to get our eyes off Jesus as long as he can distract our focus. Guess I’m being disciplined. LOL =)

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Yes!! Amen!! Thank you for sharing your insights and experience. I really like how you said “if those kingdom plans make me focus on them instead of Jesus, they are mastering me.” So true! Good stuff!

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Thank you so much, Cindy! I wouldn’t have the first idea how to submit this post for publication, though. If you have any expertise in that area, I’d be happy to learn. Thanks for reading and encouraging me. I appreciate you :).

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You’re such a fabulous writer with great stories! Yes, you need to submit this one for publication somewhere. Right now, it’s 4:30 p.m., and I’m looking at my to-do list…only two things scratched off. Somewhere along the day, my plans went all wonky, so it was nice to find your post and be reminded to rest in the Lord and HIS plans! Amen!

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Thank you, Arnold. “Completed” is a wonderful word. And you’re right – chasing it can be distressing instead of a blessing. Now is important. All of “then” hinges on “now”. Thanks for pointing that out!

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“Completed” NIV is “finished” KJV (Luke 12:50). As per John 19:30, “It is finished.”

Sometimes I wonder that God doesn’t plan, rather, he IS, and now simply IS. “I AM.” I dunno, tis a mystery, time is one of his creations.

Good post!

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Oh, that whole eternity-outside-of-time thing! Yes, it boggles the finite brain. I look forward to not only understanding it, but living it, for ever glorious forever! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Arnold.

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And just recalled, “Father, the hour is come,” in John 17:1–Jesus’ reason for becoming a man.

“The Lamb slain from the foundation of the world.” Always was, always will be. Alpha and omega.


“I consistently pray that Jesus will always have her heart” . . . Beautiful! . . . the pleading prayer of a Christian grandparent for God to align their granddaughter’s plans with His plans . . . boyfriends or other aspirations 😊

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My grandmother’s like prayers yielded much in the way of guarding my heart. It’s time to pay that forward. I know first-hand how valuable a praying grandma is! Thank you, Fred!


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